The Ultimate Self-Care List for Everyone

Self-care is something that many of us don’t do enough of. I’ll admit that I have been slacking in the self-care department recently. I am going to work on that and now that this mega-list of ideas and activities is out there, I am hoping you can also work on your self-care.

Not every activity or idea is going to be for everyone. Pick and choose what you want. You do not have to do them all.

  • Watch your favorite movie
  • Go for a walk without your phone
  • Turn off your phone for a few hours
  • Take a bath or bubble bath
  • Do something you’ve always wanted to do for the first time
  • Read a good book
  • Take a nap
  • Get into some comfy clothes
  • Binge watch your favorite show on Netflix
  • Spend time with a friend or family member
  • Write down a list of things you are thankful for
  • Take time to be alone, away from other people
  • List 10 things you are grateful for
  • Unfollow negative people on social media
  • Write in a journal
  • Color in a coloring book
  • Play a board game
  • Get a mani/pedi
  • Go braless!
  • Call someone and check in
  • Create positive affirmations for yourself
  • Write yourself a love letter
  • Do something you love
  • Listen to music
  • Buy yourself something
  • Write a thank you letter or note to someone
  • Do some deep breathing
  • Write down 5 things you love about yourself
  • De-clutter something
  • Buy yourself flowers
  • Take a class for fun
  • Do a fun craft
  • Set up a boundary list for people in your life
  • Plan a mini staycation
  • Create a self-love jar or box
  • Go on a date – either with yourself or someone else
  • Watch the sunset or sunrise
  • Write down some things you have learned about yourself the past year
  • Plan a movie night
  • Sleep in on the weekend
  • Organize your closet
  • Try a new recipe
  • Do something that you’ve been putting off for a while
  • Slow down and be present
  • Treat yourself to your favorite dessert
  • Go to a museum
  • Watch a stand-up comedy show
  • Make a playlist of your favorite songs at the moment
  • Go to your favorite coffee shop and get your favorite kind
  • Spend some time in the sun
  • Get your hair done
  • Play with a pet (obviously if you have one)
  • Have a spa day
  • Play a sport
  • Go to a sporting event
  • Go for a long drive
  • Paint something
  • Bake something
  • Shop for a new outfit
  • Engage in a complete random act of kindness
  • Get a massage
  • Order your favorite takeout food
  • Go swimming
  • Write a poem
  • Watch the stars at night
  • Go to the library
  • Go to the park
  • Ride a bike
  • Read a self-improvement book
  • Listen to a new podcast
  • Create a bucket list
  • Visit somewhere new, anywhere!
  • Read inspirational quotes
  • Complete a simple reflection of your life
  • Unplug from social media
  • Make future plans for an event or something you’re excited about
  • Do yoga
  • No feeling guilty for turning down plans
  • Remind yourself that this too shall pass
  • Visit your favorite place around you
  • Identify and write down activities and things that you enjoy
  • Do not force yourself to do anything you don’t want to do
  • Take a day off of work if you need to
  • Go on a hike
  • Start a home improvement project
  • Do breathing exercises
  • Take a new fitness class
  • Go to see live music
  • Have a picnic
  • Say no to something
  • Go dancing!
  • Participate in guided meditation
  • Browse a bookstore
  • Go out and get some ice cream
  • Try a new craft beer
  • Volunteer at a place by you
  • Take a long shower
  • Look at pictures and reminisce about the good memories
  • Visit a winery
  • Buy a small gift for someone
  • Make a list of what makes you happy
  • Burn your favorite scented candle
  • Go to the beach
  • Pick a guilty pleasure and indulge it every so often
  • Visit an art gallery
  • Close your eyes for 5-10 minutes
  • Get dressed up for no reason
  • Take a walk in the forest
  • Give yourself a pep talk
  • Make a present for a friend
  • Make funny faces
  • Run outside when it’s raining
  • Re-purpose some old clothes
  • Set a realistic challenge for yourself for the next day
  • Rearrange some furniture
  • Have a candlelit dinner
  • Put your feet up for a night
  • Organize your workspace
  • Start a spare piggy pank
  • Be mindful of current feelings and emotions
  • Create a new Pinterest board
  • Sell some second hand stuff online
  • Pop some bubble wrap
  • Literally stop and smell the flowers
  • End a toxic relationship
  • Hire/get a life coach
  • Get a good night’s sleep
  • Drive around and sing in the car
  • Say “I love you” to yourself in the mirror
  • Forgive yourself
  • Give yourself permission to do absolutely nothing
  • Have a good cry (we all need a good cry every once in a while)
  • Play with stickers
  • Get your favorite stuffed animal or cuddle buddy and snuggle
  • Read some pick me up blogs
  • Write or type a short story
  • Do a crossword puzzle or some other puzzle type game
  • Start a blog
  • Cancel some subscriptions you are no longer using
  • Make a list of at least 10 things you want to do by the time the year is over
  • Take some pictures of anything your heart desires
  • Say “fuck it” to anything that is not contributing to your self-care
  • Watch funny videos on YouTube
  • Look at funny memes
  • Get a personal growth tarot reading
  • Get your groceries delivered
  • Eat cake for breakfast
  • Diffuse essential oils
  • Go through a stretching routine
  • Go on a retreat
  • Replace every negative thought with a positive one
  • Go to the ballet, theatre or comedy show
  • Celebrate a small achievement
  • Host a charity or something related fundraiser
  • Slow down
  • Go to a petting zoo or farm

There you have it ladies and gentleman! These are activities that should be recurrent whether it’s once a month or once a week. Some of the ideas and activities more than others, obviously. I truly believe that if you engage in just a little self-care, your overall mood and happiness will increase. I’m willing to try any challenges readers may have or if they just need someone to check in with!

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Don’t Let Anyone Dull Your Sparkle

She spent a long time rebuilding herself because an emotionally abusive person knocked her down and made her feel less than. She’s got a heart of gold but she still has insecurities and bad days where she feels awful about herself. Her heart was broken to pieces when he took advantage of her good heart.

He fucked with her emotions. He acted as if he was the sweetest most loving person when really, he was a fake and a phony. He said all of the right things and fed off of her insecurities like a pro. What satisfaction does that give him? Did he enjoy every last minute until the time he decided he was done with her?

She did confide in him about many things and she thought he confided in her as well but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Why did he have sex with her and stop talking to her not even 24 hours after? She just needs to know what happened, She wants closure. If he had a change of heart or feelings changed, she still deserves to know for her own peace of mind.

She gave her heart to him because he made her believe he was real. He made indirect comments about being her boyfriend. She thought you guys had a blast together the times you went out. So, what was it? Was she too good to be true? Well, she is real and most definitely too good for him.

Suddenly walking away like he did fucked with her self-esteem and self worth. She told him time and time again that she was nervous and self-conscious about her herself and all he said was “you’re beautiful and amazing,” That was a lie. Was anything he said remotely close to the truth? Or was the whole thing about getting laid?

Anyone who does that is a disgusting and disgraceful excuse for a human being. He has no problems sleeping at night knowing he’s intentionally hurting people’s feelings.

She is lying awake playing everything back in her mind to see where or what could have gone wrong. She comes up with nothing. She cries and cries and is beating herself up because she feels used and manipulated. She is physically sick to her stomach because she can’t fathom how a person could take such a precious girl and damage what she worked so hard to piece back together.

She thinks that everything he ever told her was a blatant lie. He played an expert role when it came to being the insecure, lost little boy. It’s almost as if it was an unconscious thing to do. The thing is, she wouldn’t have ran away had he been honest about things. Because she would have had his back when everyone else turned theirs on him.

He can’t just blow it with the one girl who would always put him first and herself second. Or at least give an explanation as to why he got up and left without a word. Her feelings matter and she deserves an explanation. She doesn’t deserve to be beating herself up because he’s a shitty person.

She is awesome and amazing and losing her will be his biggest regret. She’s so much more than what he sees but that’s ok. She made a promise to herself that no one would ever dull her sparkle again.

26 Quotes For When You Can’t Escape Your Past

Sometimes our pasts feel so painful that we’ll never be able to escape them. It’s the daunting weight on them on our shoulders as we rest our heads on our pillows at night and when we open our eyes in the morning. But the truth is, we can be scarred and feel broken, but there will always be a new day to start over. There will always be another chance to pick yourself up and try again.

So take these quotes and keep them close to your heart because even on your worst day, you’re still a little bit lighter than the day before. And before you know it, your heavy past will be nothing but a faint memory.

    “Be miserable, or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” – Wayne Dyer
    “Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.” – Og Mandino
    “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” – William James
    “Fear cannot be without hope nor hope without fear.” – Baruch Spinoza
    “Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now.” – Denis Waitley
    “If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
    “When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.” – Thomas Jefferson
    “Begin to be now what you will be hereafter.” – William James
    “It’s always too early to quit.” – Norman Vincent Peale
    “Opportunity does not knock, it presents itself when you beat down the door.” – Kyle Chandler
    “Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.” – Robert H. Schuller
    “Things do not happen. Things are made to happen.” – John F. Kennedy
    “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph.” – Thomas Paine
    “Wherever you are, be all there.” – Jim Elliot
    “You can’t expect to hit the jackpot if you don’t put a few nickels in the machine.” – Flip Wilson
    “To be a good loser is to learn how to win.” – Carl Sandburg
    “Without hard work, nothing grows but weeds.” – Gordon B. Hinckley
    “Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other.” – Walter Elliot
    “It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” – Aristotle Onassis
    “Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” – Robert Louis Stevenson
    “Believe you can and you are halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt
    “Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” – Jim Rohn
    “Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.” – Democritus
    “Don’t let the fear of striking out hold you back.” – Babe Ruth
    “We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.” – Ronald Reagan
    “With self-discipline most anything is possible.” – Theodore Roosevelt.

Don’t be afraid to conquer your fears and chase after your dreams. Embrace the present and try your best; you’ll be shocked by how much you can accomplish.

I’ll Own My Past, But It Will Not Define My Future

My past is never far away.

It follows me wherever I go. It led to me where I am, and always trails quietly behind. But sometimes it sneaks up on me, jumps out from behind and drags me back to darker days.

It brings up old memories of heartbreak and pain. It interferes with every relationship I have, pushing away good people until they can’t take it anymore. It makes me second guess everything I do, it has me thinking that everyone has a hidden agenda.

The past gives me excuses to behave in irrational and illogical ways. Like because I was abused in the past, I can treat people shitty and get away with it. Somehow my past convinces me that this is true.

In reality, no one deserves to be treated poorly regardless of my past history. The people I’m treating like shit didn’t have a part to play in my past and therefore, don’t deserve to be treated with disrespect or dishonesty.

I know this. Deep down, I do.

I know that not every person I encounter will be like people from my past. There are good people out there and I need to start trusting that not everyone will screw me over.

But this is so much easier said than done.

Because the past is there to remind me of my mistakes and allow me to repeat them.

Well I’m done accepting that, and using it as an excuse. My past doesn’t have to define my future.

I know that I wouldn’t be where I am without it, but it’s time I let go of the hold the past has on my present life.

Today, my past mistakes and fears will no longer have a say in whether or not someone is a good person. That’s for my current self to decide. The past will no longer hold any weight to how I perceive or view someone.

And while it’s served a purpose in my life, it’s are also getting in my way.

So, while I appreciate you for all of the lessons I’ve learned and memories I’ve made, please past, stay the fuck out of my present and future.